As one of the 100 women at Diabetes Sisters’ first “Weekend for Women” this past June I can tell you how groundbreaking it was to have a learning and bonding event just for us gals. Bravo, Brandy.
As a blogger myself on my web site, Diabetes Stories.com, Brandy reached out to me to share my experiences as a woman living with diabetes. In my case, type 1 for 38 years, since the age of 18. So, here goes.
Q: What obstacle(s) have you had to overcome as a woman with diabetes?
A: Actually, I’ve never run into any obstacles as a female with diabetes, or as a person with diabetes. Hmm…except maybe if you count trying to check my blood sugar and dose my insulin injection discretely while seated in the middle seat on an airplane!
Q: How about dating and diabetes?
A: I kept my diabetes out of my casual dating relationships. After all, why does a blind date or a one-night stand (oops!) need to know. But for anyone I was seeing for a few weeks or more, diabetes was on the menu.
In fact, I knew it was time to break up with an Australian man I was dating in London when I woke up in the middle of the night with low blood sugar. Maneuvering my way out of bed over him, he asked me what was going on. “I’m low, I need sugar,” I said. He rolled back over to go to sleep. I had to forage in his dark kitchen for a shortbread cookie! Not only did we break up, but I also learned to speak up for myself.
This story, however, has a happy ending. Dumping him led to the man I married; my husband couldn’t be more different except for the European bit, he’s Dutch. As soon as he hears the crinkle of my SweeTarts in the middle of the night he wakes and asks, “Are you OK? Do you want me to bring you juice or your meter?” He’s a keeper.
Keep it real, girls. If your guy rises to your diabetes, or doesn’t, better to know.
Q: What lessons have you learned about living a happy, healthy life with diabetes that you would like to share with others?
A: My mantra is, “You can have a great life not despite diabetes, but because of it, using diabetes as a catalyst to design a healthier, happier, more meaningful life. I believe it with all my heart and I’ve interviewed more than a hundred people who concur.
I am healthier and happier today than I’ve ever been, and if not for diabetes, believe I would have become. I watch what and how much I eat, keep my weight down, and power-walk an hour a day. It keeps me fit, looking pretty good in my clothes and boosts my endorphins, anti-oxidants, pride and confidence.
Here’s my wrap up:
Decide diabetes is a friend, not the enemy. It is a part of you, and while often an annoying part, it can also bestow benefits — greater health, strength, compassion and appreciation for life and loved ones.Find support. It may be your spouse, or a friend with diabetes. Either way, having a friend or two with diabetes is a treasure.Find 1 positive thing diabetes has given you. It’s there if you look.Keep learning. Things are changing all the time: new research, devices, information. The more you know, the better you’ll do.
Riva is the author of “50 Diabetes Myths That Can Ruin Your Life and the 50 Diabetes Truths That Can Save It” and “The ABC’s Of Loving Yourself With Diabetes.” She blogs on her web site and on The Huffington Post